Am I being Catfished?

After last weekend where the guy formerly known as the lovely English gent who turned into an asshole (unless he was hit and killed by a bus and that is why I haven’t heard from him, if so, my condolences to his family) I decided to give Tinder a rest…

But before I did, I thought I’d give it a few last swipes. I then found an interesting profile with just one pic which was a photo of a plane. I’m not sure why I clicked into it, but his profile said something about being easy going, fun, loves a laugh and quotes himself as ‘reasonably good looking’. Now I really want to see his photo if he is talking himself up like that!

But I swiped right for yes and we matched. I sent him a message immediately saying that I found his profile intriguing that he would be Tindering with no pic. He replied and said that there was nothing suspicious about it, he just has a lot of clients and didn’t want work people to see him on there. We started chatting and he was actually quite interesting.  We chatted for about 2 hours, then the following night there was more great chatting, and then again the next night. By then it was Thursday and I suggested that we catch up on the weekend. We exchanged numbers and I said to him that it would make it easier for me to find him when we meet up if I have some idea what he looked like. *wink, wink, nudge, nudge, send me your photo please!

I was surprised at myself that I would want to meet someone I hadn’t seen a pic of. It’s the ultimate blind date – which is so unusual for online dating! But what I’ve been doing hasn’t been working, so why not I guess?!?

Friday passes and I don’t hear from him. Most of Saturday passes and I haven’t heard from him either. I send him a txt msg Saturday afternoon to ask what time we are going to catch up on Sunday. No response.

When I woke up this morning I was thinking of just deleting him off Tinder and moving on. He hadn’t been active on Tinder the past few days so I thought I’d wait until I could tell he was alive (seeing all my dates keep dying lately….). I was just heading out to lunch with a friend when I get a Tinder message from him saying that he is sorry he hasn’t messaged me, but he got stuck up the north coast due to bad weather, he also lost his phone and was messaging me on his iPad and he has come down with the flu today and asked if we could raincheck our date for tonight.

Wow. I always complain about the guys that die that they don’t have the balls to send a simple txt and prefer to just ignore me. This guy has coughed up 3 excuses whilst cancelling a date. But, I can’t help but feel that it is terribly bad luck to have all that happen at once.

Could it be true? I’ve still not seen this guy’s pic. I have not spoken to him on the phone either. Could he be a 18 yr old girl that has been bullied her entire life and is deciding to fuck with people just for the fun of it? Note, on Friday night I saw the show Catfish where this 21 yr girl had been chatting to a model she met online and they were txting that they love each other and want to marry for 8 months despite the fact they had never met or spoken. The show gets them together and the model guy turns out to be an 18 yr old very unfortunate looking bisexual girl. Great show!

Could ‘he’ like talking to me, but can’t meet up or it would reveal his secret so that’s why the 3 lies? Could ‘he’ be Casey Donovan catfishing me to get revenge for all the shit she has copped after she revealed her 6 yr relationship with a man, who was a girl, who she was having sex with cause her man who she never met wanted her to? Yes, it’s complicated. For my non-Aussie readers check this out to get up to speed

So I eventually replied tonight saying that it was an unusual amount of misfortune he has endured this weekend and that a cynical person who has met a lot of Tinder dickheads may not believe it. He replied saying that it was all true and all he can do is hope I believe it and that he’d like to keep talking to me.

I’m unconvinced. Thoughts?


I Want My Money Back!

Last week I decided that I had had enough of dealing with the Blue Label Life matchmaking agency and I requested a refund. Basically all of my interactions with my matchmaker now consist of her suggesting a guy for me, me being underwhelmed by their profile but having no real reason to decline them, so I tell her I’m interested in meeting him and then I wait, and wait, and wait.

Sometimes I chase her for an update, sometimes she will proactively offer me one. Early April she sent me the profile of a surgeon. Now remember I had a very bumpy start with Blue Label Life where the first match I had was a government worker who essentially was a customer service person answering phones, perhaps you could classify his role as clerical at best. The second match was the petrol tank driver who told me that he was a problem for the agency as all the women expect him to be an executive or a professional and call the agency to complain after they have been matched with him or go on a date with him. So I was relieved to get someone who meets their own self-proclaimed standards.

After two weeks, the surgeon had not replied to my matchmaker to say whether he was interested in me or not. My matchmaker said that she suspected he was ‘busy with surgeries’. So she found me someone else in the meantime whilst he was busy saving lives.

Next was an entrepreneur. Now, that could just mean he had an ABN or an eBay account, but I told my matchmaker yes I was interested in meeting him. Two weeks pass and nothing. I ask my matchmaker what happened with the entrepreneur. Perhaps he died? She said that she has made contact with him and that he has been interstate on business. Apparently they do not have internet in any state of Australia besides Sydney, so he couldn’t check his email to read my profile and say if he was interested or not.

This is a relentless story. Last week I decided I was sick of waiting, this process has never saved me time (which is a key selling point of their service according to their website) and I decided to request a refund for the 3 matches I am owed. I originally signed up in August and the process is supposed to be 6 matches in 6 months. I have had 4 matches, but we had agreed to remove the petrol tank driver from the match tally so it sits at 3 after 9 months. I’m still getting nowhere and I honestly believe that they just don’t have many male members. I’ve seen a couple of other comments online claiming the same problem.

I have a long drawn out conversation where my matchmaker says she can’t give me my money back and that it’s not her fault if guys keep saying no to me. This is the first she has brought this up and convenient timing. I absolutely understand that she can’t make guys like me and that I may not be everyone’s cup of tea, but I was repeatedly told when I joined that they had plenty of guys on the books and many highly compatible matches based on the survey I did online before the first meeting. Otherwise, I feel that if she didn’t think she could find me dates, or thought I was an undesirable candidate, surely they shouldn’t take me on??

I am offered another ‘relationship counselling’ session with their CEO who I met in January and she just tried to convince me to let go of all my preferences so I have a chance of finding love. I’ve mentioned the top 5 criteria I gave my matchmaker on my initial meeting, nothing too outrageous really. Plus, this agency promotes themselves as a discerning agency where you can get the type of person you want. Many others don’t! I suspect that this counselling about dropping your preferences may work on the meek minded who now realise they have done their dough on the membership fee so relent.

I was also told I could put my membership on hold, or transfer it to someone else. Geeze, not sure I know someone that I dislike enough to pass on this pain! We end the conversation with me being entirely unsatisfied and apparently the surgeon has conveniently responded to her since I lodged my request for a refund and he will be available to meet in two weeks. I’m told he has been overseas and that is why he hasn’t responded for 2 months (no internet in America either it seems).

Later that day my matchmaker sends me the profile of a new guy. He is shorter than me. Arrrrgggggghhhhh!!!!!

I have posted a review on True Local about my experience and my request for a refund. Note that the business name on their page has been changed to something completely unrelated to BLL. That happened after negative reviews started appearing. I guess it is just a coincidence…

The True Local page comes up as soon as you google Blue Label Life now. I wish I could find reviews like this before I signed up. Before I met with them I googled them extensively with terms like ‘Blue Label Life Dating Agency’, ‘Blue Label Life Reviews’, ‘Blue Label Life Sydney’, Blue Label Life Executive Matchmaker’, ‘Blue Label Life Complaints’, ‘Blue Label Life Scam’ etc and got almost nothing! There is now a lot more online and unfortunately some have had a very similar experience to myself.