The Sydney dating scene is a complicated beast. So many highs, yet so many lows – very very low!

I’m a 34 year old single woman seeking the elusive Mr Right, or at the very least some Mr Right Nows who are fun to spend time with.

If you are single too and share the pleasures / displeasures of online dating, or are happily coupled up, I hope you will enjoy my stories, rants and raves.

I welcome your advice, insights and comments along the way!


  1. Noelle · July 6, 2014

    I stumbled across your blog a few days ago and it made me laugh so hard. I Iove your blog!! I agree and don’t understand why it is so damn hard to look for a decent, normal guy!!! Not asking for much -just normal and decent.
    Looking forward to reading more from you!!

    Liked by 1 person

    • seriouslysingleinsyd · July 6, 2014

      Hi Noelle,
      Thanks so much for your comment. I’m glad you’ve enjoyed reading my rants!
      It is definitely tough out there. Good luck with your search. I’ll keep you posted on mine šŸ™‚

      Liked by 1 person

  2. Ann St. Vincent · July 7, 2014

    Thank you so much for the annstvincent.com blog follow; I hope you enjoy what you read and in turn, look forward to exploring your blog!

    Liked by 1 person

  3. Anonymous · July 15, 2014

    You’re a cunt. Maybe instead of complaining about the undesirables on dating websites being the reason you’re single, take a look in the mirror and stop using your blog as a thinly veiled attempt to use humour to cover up your own pity party.

    Liked by 1 person

    • seriouslysingleinsyd · July 15, 2014

      Thank you for your comment. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and it did give me a good laugh. It sounds like you may have been quite tightly wound when you wrote it. Pants a little too tight perhaps?

      Liked by 1 person

  4. P · February 25, 2015

    I had a similar experience using the Executive Matchmaker as well. Completely unsuitable matches, usually women who already have children (sorry, no thanks), and materialistic or superficial.

    That said, some of your posts reflect why I find Sydney dating so difficult: you seem very, very picky! Nothing wrong with that per se, after all we like what we like. But two questions for you: do you really think there’s a man out there that will tick ALL of you boxes, and from a female perspective do you think Sydney women have similar expectations?

    Anyway, good luck with it!

    Liked by 1 person

    • seriouslysingleinsyd · February 27, 2015

      Hi P, thanks for reading my blog!

      I do think there is a man out there that ticks all of my boxes as I really don’t think that I’m asking for all that much! It’s not like I’m saying he has to look like the Bondi Vet, or have perfect teeth…..oh wait.
      No, I’m just after ‘nice teeth’, not perfect teeth ;p

      I have met a lot of single women out and about at dating events and some email me on the blog too and I have to say that most are looking for similar things to me, but fundamentally I think we are all looking for someone comparable to ourselves. I am quite career driven and I expect that would be a shared quality in anyone that I have a significant relationship with, but I have noticed that it is less important to women that are not so career driven. Same with whether someone has children or not, smoking, intelligence, humour etc.

      That seems pretty reasonable to me!I

      Good luck to you too šŸ™‚

      Liked by 1 person

  5. Anonymous · July 7, 2015

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  6. DatingConsultant · August 30, 2015

    I work with a dating consultancy company for men around the world, some of our clients are Australian and are heavy online dating/tinder users, I myself am an Australian male based in Sydney, but fortunately married.

    We were having trouble getting even a single date for many of our clients here in Sydney. At first we couldn’t understand why we couldn’t replicate the results we were achieving for good looking, wealthy, eligible men that in many cases were well above the quality of men that we were getting fantastic results for in countries like the US, UK etc. where our clients had no shortage of dates. So we ran some test profiles that were exactly duplicated across various cities (NYC, London, Chicago, Sydney). Including a control profile to standardize results. This control profile was the ‘perfect’ guy, a 30yo, rich, successful, top tier male model handsome man. The results were astounding.

    In cities like NYC, London and Chicago the good looking, successful, but not ‘perfect’ guys were receiving 30-40% of the interest level that the ‘perfect’ control profile was achieving. We thought that was pretty good, these men were clearly catches. Then came the shocker, Sydney. These very same profiles in Sydney only received 5%-10% of the interest compared to the ‘perfect’ control profile. Furthermore the perfect control profile was pursued considerably more aggressively by women in Sydney more than ANYWHERE ELSE IN THE WORLD. It was messaged first more than anywhere else, it had women throwing there numbers at it in the first message and it even had women offering intimate encounters in the first message in hopes of landing him, something we didn’t see in the other countries.

    We have started recommending our clients with the means seek partners abroad, they couldn’t believe the ease they had dating as soon as they moved, they never realized just how attractive they were as men to women in NYC or London or throughout Europe after experiencing so much rejection here.

    You, and many single women in Australia, especially Sydney are looking for something that simply doesn’t exist, or are all aggressively pursuing and competing for the same very small handful of guys that meet your almost impossible checklists and are drowning in so many offers and women pursuing them that they have absolutely no reason to ever settle or date just one girl. Women in Sydney talk about their ‘type’ the problem is their type is all essentially the same. Your blog, is the perfect representation of the typical single Sydney woman.


  7. Peter (Melbourne) · December 25, 2015

    Hi. Stumbled across your blog when reviewing dating sites. New to dating, after seperating 9 months ago. Funny stuff! As a bloke I can tell you that its equally frustrating on the other side too. Most of the time you are flushing out scammers which is a huge waste of time.

    Liked by 1 person

    • seriouslysingleinsyd · December 29, 2015

      Hi Peter, thanks for the feedback! I hear Tinder is 90% scammers these days. As if online dating isn’t frustrating enough!! Good luck with the dating. Let me know if you have any good Melbourne dating stories to share šŸ™‚


  8. Catherine · January 20, 2016

    Hi there I stumbled across your blog and had a great time relating to your frustrating experiences with online dating and speed dating as a single professional woman in Sydney. I used tinder/okcupid/eharmony/cityswoon, no success story to tell. Not to mention several months ago I thought I could finally get off the market with a guy I met on tinder and he cheated. Thank everything I did not marry him!

    Good luck with finding a quality guy in Sydney. I feel there is also a barrier even though I can try to be open to all cultural backgrounds there will be something I cannot compromise. I have dated a few bogans from very different cultures and the dates left me speechless.

    Best Regards

    Liked by 1 person

    • seriouslysingleinsyd · January 22, 2016

      Hi Catherine, it sounds like you would have some real horror stories to tell too! I’ve never tried okcupid. From memory that one had a super long questionnaire to sign up and ain’t nobody got time for that! I’m on a dating app hiatus at the moment, so hopefully the man of my dreams just magically appears somehow haha. Good luck!!


  9. eggsperience · June 21, 2016

    Hello SeriouslySingle,
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    All the best,

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  10. I've been there · May 22, 2017

    I have been a part of both sides, the side of the settling down; and single n mingle. Also I worked at one of the dating agencies, a while ago. Unfortunately for most I surmised, many are single because they are nuts. I was nuts also for a while when I was dumped after 10 years, but then I understood. I know the complainers, I know what they want, I know that what they want either doesn’t exist or is out of their reach. Lucky for me I found my husband and I was OK with him being married before and with a 5yo child, myself being at the age of 30 (which is ludicrous for most that age as they want no kids and not married), some 30yo nuts expect miracles. If you are 30ish and have no kids and have not been married- Its nearly impossible nowadays. ‘Fast forward for myself- I have a beautiful stepson and a beautiful husband, now I’m 37 and for those who bother about ‘height’ ps.I’m taller than my husband; or martial status (you may be kidding yourself if you are 30+ and not married) then forget it. The men who are not married without children are most likely like that way for a reason, I’m not saying all, but most are single for a reason, or married to their job…but most likely are serial killers or Mummas boys who will be hard work! Or their Mothers will be! Good luck, the good ones are taken when they are young, if not they’ve been married before so accept it! Goodness me, stop being so precious. Tinder, ok Cupid, all of them are mostly scammers, maybe 99%, it’s bloody tough. The ones who are online are mostly weird or looking for a good time. Or have kids. Kids are lovely so get over it, it’s the adults you need to worry about! Take it from a
    30yo female who was scared of kids and didn’t know what to say- they are beautiful.


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