I haven’t been doing much dating lately. I felt over online dating so I deleted all the apps and thought I’d prefer to meet someone out and about. But then I got the plague for two months and didn’t go out much at all.
A few weeks back I decided to try an online dating site I hadn’t used before called Elite Singles. It seemed good in theory and I remember discussing it with Ms A who thought that there should be a better calibre of man on there based purely on the branding. Surely all the riff raff would self select themselves out of something called ‘Elite Singles’ as they knew they were not elite.
No. Turns out most men have alarmingly high self esteem. There were many, many men on there that were not elite at all. The worst of which had the style of the guys in Warrant and I was stuck with Sweet Cherry Pie stuck in my head for days.
But after speaking with some of my single girlfriends last week, I was encouraged to give Tinder another look. I loaded the app up again, adjusted my search settings to a nice broad 30-45 age range with 20 kms distance (see I’m being more relaxed on my criteria these days…) and started flicking through.
Within minutes of swiping I was reminded as to why I gave up on Tinder. It is seriously like a fast moving slideshow of my dating past in recent years. It’s always the same people!
Guy I dated once but was dull – swipe left
Guy I spoke with once but was a bad speller – swipe left
Guy who was my very first Tinder date – swipe left
Guy I worked with (and I’m pretty sure he’s married) – swipe left
Guy I dated a few times and he went AWOL (dang it, I assumed he died….) – swipe left
Mike (still 42 surprisingly) – swipe left
Guy who is my friend’s ex – swipe left
6’6″ ‘my share house smells like dog‘ dad- swipe left
Guy I spoke with and he irritated the crap out of me – swipe left
Guy who is definitely my type, if he had 3 more inches – swipe left
Asshole frenchie – swipe left
Guy who is physically my type, but when we chatted was dumb as shit – swipe left
Guy who I spoke with and was a weirdo stalker – swipe left.
Sigh. Happy Groundhog Day!